It looks to me, as if the digital era is over- with cloud, ai, doom scrolling, software engineer hopes are over. I like to say, RIP adobe, fb, twitter, smartphones, dumb phones. Because they are produced in great numbers and with lesser audience and fewer innovations. The same goes with endless, mindless serials that is produced in hd quality.( at least regional channels. ). I am sorry to feel the same for electronics and Tv. I am sorry to feel the content which brought about unbelievable and extraordinary things(like India got talent, wwe), which are openly advertised as difficult to replicate and done by professionals taking years of hard work (which is not mostly shown or shown less- only told by proper ethical media professionals like sometimes in vijay tv). I feel the same goes for government. Are we shown circuses and breads? (panem et circenses ) It looks as if no one to look after people(based on all the news from villages, where farmers are complaining) and no one knows how to. I might be wrong. Do we live in the best possible world or do I alone live in it, with infinite possibilities and as we are taught if we fail to make best use of it, we are not qualified and so we might get depressed?, which should not be the case, but unfortunately happens many times, getting inspiration from motivation books and videos. I learned that concentrating on a single task is more important than having plenty in the kit. Even though goal setting is difficult, as daily it looks as if we are a caged bird, not exploring other possibilities and the world? The goal could progressively take simpler routes like setting daily step counts to 10000 steps , it is easy if one gets used to 5000 steps. Use of oil or moisturiser for friction in thighs helps. Being a home maker is difficult. I see, I have the tendency to avoid taking bins, ironing and washing my clothes, cooking, cutting vegetables etc. My friends have learned after marriage. However , I got to learn some chess basics. Trompowski attack, Dutch gambit, Torri attack, Fried liver attack, Queen’s gambit to name some. These names will frighten a person, but very easy for beginners.
Playing basic chess and having a family to play chess will be shown as more than enough to live in this world. There are people who are living without internet, chess. Agree. There is still a long way to go memorising. Some YouTube videos might be helpful in learning. I am nearing 40. I am tempted to say there might be no psychiatric disorders- don’t get cheated by any names. It is all mind. I learned to live to certain extent peacefully chanting god’s name(whichever god you like, krishna, eshwar, sai, rama, ganapathy have been in recent times favourites) that is more than enough, whenever my mind is tempted. I started my adulthood with so much expectation thinking I can attack with my strengths without looking at my drawbacks. It resulted in mistakes. And then one day I overlooked and forgot my past and declared Hindu gods is dead or took far right view, or far-left when there is no need for anything. If I declare am an atheist, it doesn’t mean I should be a nihilist with no moral standards, which I could take from human free will, which could harm others. I have to agree with Rousseau, man is born free but everywhere he is in chains. MGR might have argued for solipsism when he sang, the world has born for one person, but still our views, perspectives and actions affect others. Also never drink alcohol. It is been condemned by Christianity and Jainism; also by Mahatma Gandhi(who has Jain viewpoints). It causes depression and brings about weird possibilities in real life, which you might regret in the long term, like becoming stupid and saying yes to everything like a pig. Childhood memories and beautiful moments could get forgotten. One might digress in public forums with unpopular and unpleasant opinions saying the nation as banana republic or condemning the nation and people for personal failings.
No need to be extraordinary by taking shortcuts or unguided or become a hero or saviour watching films. Setting a realistic goal and having a good teacher or guide is necessary. Having high morales and ambitions is not wrong. I learned to live a dignified life, even though I might have committed any mistakes. And please don’t confuse mistakes for sins and preach to the whole world. Alcohol might bring about happiness in the near term but causes problems in decision-making, laziness, hopelessness and mental unrest. English serials talk about being sober, psychiatrists talk about them. It could be ridiculed or look impossible from an alcoholic viewpoint. Also psychiatric handbook talk about the level of alcohol that could be accepted by the body. These are important. Being a Tamil or an Indian doesn’t exclude from being human vulnerabilities. I might have challenged people to a duel or might have asked for things that might not be liked by me.
Drinking in excess and shouting in front of a lover in person or phone degenerates not the receiver but the person who shouts. It is shown as a trope, in tamil movies. Also even if a person attempts to drink only to the limit, it might not give the kick that the mind or he craves for and so he will increase. For a sober person, once he starts drinking he will continually drink and be happy with the drink. It is made to look sexier, but unfortunately it is not the truth. Your friends might compel you. Learn to say no. These are some of the lessons that I learned in the past few years.